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OK to say NO! 9/30/14


But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no....   James 5:12

If you are a leader, one of your constant struggles is managing your time.     Leaders are often overachiever personality types.    With out realizing it, leaders [especially servant leaders] easily become over scheduled and overstressed?   

You’ve heard it said that there are only so many things you can put on your plate.  That is true.  The problem is… instead of making priorities of what to keep and what needs to go.. we just trade one plate for a bigger one.

As hard as it is to do and as disappointing as it is for others to hear, good leaders must learn to say no.  

What are some reasons we say “YES YES” and later wish we would have said, “NO NO”? 

1.  Too many "worthy causes"!    Separating the best from the good is a skill that must be learned.

2.  Guilt and other inner conflicts.   The need to feel important or a misguided Messiah complex.   

3.  Thinking, "No one else will do it, so I must" is the beginning mind of a burned out person.

Learning to say “NO” can be one of the biggest favors you can do yourself and those you love.   It helps reduce stress levels and gives you time for what’s really important.

Think about this… You cannot really “ADD” to your schedule.   There is only so much time to do anything…. But there is not enough time to everything.    

To work something in to your schedule means that you have to give up something else.   Perhaps the something else that you are giving up is more important than what you are trying to “work in”.

Jesus said it like this… “but let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is of evil.  Matt. 5:36

Beloved... it is OK to say NO!

pastor John